3 Practical Ways to “Show People How”

My wife and I was recently at Qdoba getting a late-night dinner. My wife orders a pick two and one of the two was a quesadilla. The young woman making the quesadilla began to make the order. Every single thing she did was corrected by the manager on duty. The young lady seemed frustrated and embarrassed. I spoke up saying, “You must be new. Don’t feel rushed or bad. Whoever trained you did not do it properly, clearly you do not know how to make this order. Whoever trained you is a sorry joker. Please do not feel rushed or bad, take your time!” The manager on duty agree with me saying they did not train her right. The young lady smiled and got through the order and the following order.  

A lot of times we tell people what to do but don't spend the time in showing them how. This especially is true when we are dealing with youth and their spiritual growth. This also goes for every aspect of our lives and I cannot stress enough, our spiritual lives. 

So, here are 3 practical ways to showing people how. 

1. Don’t Assume People Know How

Often, we think people know how to pray, study their Bible, fill out a resume, or make a quesadilla. Most people do not want to look like they are smart and have all together. So, they will proceed to do something without really knowing how to do it. Then, that same person fails at life because they did not know HOW! Now, this person feels embarrassed and shamed. So, do not assume that people know how to do what you are asking them to do. 

2. Ask Clarifying Questions

This is simple! Ask someone to explain to you what you just explained to them. Simply, ask if they understand and is there anything I need to go over again. Ask questions, in the beginning, middle, and end whenever you are showing someone how. 

3. Model

This is my favorite suggestion. Show them how to do what you want! Most things are learned through modeling. You watch someone else do it and you do what they did. We have to stop barking out orders to people and actually show them how to do what needs to be done. This is not as easy as it seems. This is what I mean: A manger at Burger Hut shows his new employee how to wash their hands and when to wash their hands. This is super important after lunch break. The employees understand fully but there is a problem. The manager never washes his hands unless he is training a new employee. Even though the employees know what to do and when to do it, they are following the example of their leader. You must show them how, through your example. 

So, when we are showing people how, remember do not assume people know how, ask clarifying questions, and model.  

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